December in Nigeria can be a lot of fun – concerts, events, and weddings. Ahh! Naija weddings are truly something to behold. From the decor to the food, dance steps, and the dressing. Kai! Nigerians truly know how to “slay”. We turn up looking very regal and gorgeous. Ladies are flawlessly made up (at least most of the time) stunning attire and headgear. Even the men aren’t left behind. Totally on fleek with their well-tailored traditional attire, the groomsmen all looking like “Yoruba demons” wearing well crafted bespoke shoes. One can’t help but notice though, the stunningly beautiful ladies – … Continue reading Dress Code: Slay with Decency
What would you counsel a teen who is feeling guilty because he/she cheated through their WAEC exams and came out with straight “A’s”? Please share your comments with us and don’t forget to subscribe to our YouTube chanel. WWWOPK is a platform where we discuss responses we have gotten from teenagers on issues they wish they could talk to their parents about but for one reason or the other are unable or unwilling to. We share tips on how to deal with the different issues in the event that a child actually does talk to their mum or dad about … Continue reading #WWWOPK E3 – I Cheated In My Exams & Now I’m Feeling Guilty
A lot of discussions have been going on in recent times over gender-related issues – feminism, sexism, misogyny & misandry. The society and the media are “selling” a lot of narratives to our daughters overtly and subliminally either through TV … Continue reading Mothers Raising Daughters – Balance Is Key
The video clip of the Nigerian Inspector General of Police (IGP) Idris struggling to read a speech in Kano went viral a few weeks ago and caused quite a rumpus. There were allegations that the video was “doctored” to make the IGP look bad but some swear that what went viral was what really happened. In this era of fake news and with technology making it possible to manipulate images it’s getting harder to know what to believe. But my focus today is not on fake news – that is a topic for another day. I was ruminating over the … Continue reading “Difference” – Not Grounds For Disrespect
No matter how technologically advanced the world becomes, there are still some time-tested values that stand true online and offline. Just as we teach young children the importance of knocking on doors and waiting for a response before invading peoples space; the need to understand their body parts and how to protect themselves from predators; the importance of asking for permission before taking what doesn’t belong to them, we must remember to teach children a key ingredient of healthy relationships – RESPECT! Respect for others, respect for boundaries and a healthy dose of self-respect are values our children should imbibe from … Continue reading Respect…Still In Fashion!
Going by the news one hears of the various issues (drugs, depression, suicide, cyber-bullying…) our children are increasingly exposed to, the need to ensure that they are equipped to “do life” successfully is becoming more and more apparent. Beyond academics, parents and educators need to be more deliberate about empowering children, teenagers and young adults with core values & life skills that they need to safely and successfully navigate the different phases of life online and offline. In this free eBook (my very first – yayyyyy!!!) I share tips on how parents can start having age-appropriate conversations with their children … Continue reading Drugs & Substance Abuse – A Naija Parents Guide To Having The Talk
Wow! time sure flies!! 5 months into 2018 already. I can bet that at the start of the year many of us made resolutions, wrote our goals or simply wished for the things we hoped to achieve in 2018. Oftentimes we are very sincere about the goals we set but one thing that can thwart its realization is lack of self-discipline. This coupled with “screen addiction” leaves many of us very distracted with a trail of unrealized goals. Our RAVE core value focus for the month of May is Self Discipline and our Digizen focus is Screen Time Management. Self-discipline isn’t innate … Continue reading Let’s Talk Self-Discipline
When it comes to following trends, our tweens, teens and young adults are most vulnerable. 420 has over the years become a trend and that’s why we thought you should know! The liberal use of drugs by a number of our youth’s idols & role models (the rich & famous celebrities) makes the job of raising drug-free children more difficult for parents. The pressure to “belong” and feel grown up and independent is real and this sometimes drives our youths to make poor choices. Now that you know, we encourage you to open the conversation with your children or students. … Continue reading 420
Dear Dad & Mum, As we come to the end of March and our focus on leadership and critical thinking, there are a few thoughts I’d like to share with our children on leadership and I’d really appreciate your help in passing these nuggets along to them. Seeing that you obviously know your children better I’m sure you’d do a great job in paraphrasing in a way that would make more meaning to them. Something also tells me that adding a few of your thoughts on the matter may make the whole experience more worthwhile. Oh and please do me … Continue reading RAVE on Leadership
In recent times, there has been a focus on the need to have young people in governance in the Nigerian political scene. The #NotTooYoungToRun campaign seeks to reduce the age limit for running for elected office in Nigeria and globally. While I certainly agree that an infusion of “young blood” would be a progressive move especially in view of the fact that over half of the global population is under 30 years of age, my focus is more on how as parents and educators, we can raise our children to be successful leaders. Standing on the premise that leadership is not … Continue reading Start Them Young To Lead
As I reminisce over the various stories on kindness that have been shared with me and remember the way people’s faces have lit up when I have shown them kindness, I’m more resolute to never underestimate the power of one kind deed or word because it could literarily save a life. In a busy and fast-paced world, it’s quite easy to be so preoccupied with the hustle and bustle of life that we miss plenty opportunities to make a positive difference in someone’s life. As Leo Buscaglia put it, “Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind … Continue reading Kindness Matters
No matter the amount of time you’ve clocked in this parenting business, one thing you’d realize is that it’s a lifetime of sacrifices! I hate to be the one to break it to you but if you’re a new parent…it never really stops – your object of sacrifice just changes. So at a time you’re giving up your precious sleep and at another time, it’s your clothes, shoes, perfumes, car, money and sleep again (with all those night moves *ahem*)…It just never ends and to be perfectly honest it can sometimes seem like all the sacrifices go unnoticed and unappreciated. … Continue reading You…Yes YOU!