Parents…Children…Career Choices

It would appear that parents are getting more liberal about allowing their children follow their passion and choose careers that make them happy as against more traditional career paths. However, judging by the number of times the issue of children being scared to broach the issue of the career they’d really like to pursue comes up, it’s clear that this is still a sore point. We get so many variations of this issue when we conduct our anonymous WWWOPK (What We Wish Our Parents Knew) survey – I want to be a model – not a lawyer; I want to … Continue reading Parents…Children…Career Choices

#WWWOPK E3 – I Cheated In My Exams & Now I’m Feeling Guilty

What would you counsel a teen who is feeling guilty because he/she cheated through their WAEC exams and came out with straight “A’s”? Please share your comments with us and don’t forget to subscribe to our YouTube chanel. WWWOPK is a platform where we discuss responses we have gotten from teenagers on issues they wish they could talk to their parents about but for one reason or the other are unable or unwilling to. We share tips on how to deal with the different issues in the event that a child actually does talk to their mum or dad about … Continue reading #WWWOPK E3 – I Cheated In My Exams & Now I’m Feeling Guilty

#WWWOPK – 13 & Addicted to Porn

I am a 13-year-old boy and I am afraid that I am addicted to porn. I want to stop but I don’t know what to do. I wish I could tell my parents but I feel they would use it against me. For a child at this age to identify that he/she has a problem and consider talking to his/her parents about it is very brave and highly commendable. Let’s be honest, the risk of being stigmatized or the thought of being a disappointment to one’s parents can be really scary. It can also be heartbreaking for a parent to discover … Continue reading #WWWOPK – 13 & Addicted to Porn

What We Wish Our Parents Knew

As some of you may already know, RAVE (the organization that powers this blog) has over the past few years been conducting anonymous surveys among teenagers & emerging adults (ages 13 to about 22) on various issues they wish they could discuss with their parents but for one reason or the other, have not been able to do so. While a lot of the responses have been quite eye-opening, about 86% of the respondents said they didn’t bother discussing the issues with their parents because their mum or dad either felt awkward about having certain conversations, was overdramatic, overly spiritual … Continue reading What We Wish Our Parents Knew

Mind The Gap

Son: Dad, I’ve decided I want to drop out of Uni and pursue my music career Dad: Music career? What music career? Son: You know like Davido or Wizkid. I want to sing and make money dad. Dad: I see. You must be very unserious, after all the money I’ve spent on your education? Music?  Are you thinking at all? Funkeeeeeeee, come and hear the rubbish your son is saying… Mum: Where are you coming from? Daughter: Out Mum: What do you mean “out”? Daughter: Out, like out mum (sounding irritated) Mum: With who? Daughter: My friends… Mum: Who are they? … Continue reading Mind The Gap

What If It’s Not Pretense?

I read teary-eyed with an ache in my heart the unfortunate account of the death of 9-year-old Kamzie a JSS1 boarding student in a secondary school in Abuja, Nigeria, who allegedly died as a result of “neglect” by the school authorities. It must be heart-wrenching for her family and I pray that God will comfort them the way only He can. There’s a statement in Kamzie’s mother’s account of what happened that for some reason just keeps playing in my head “even the nurse that was on duty once chased her away that she wasn’t sick but was pretending”. As I read … Continue reading What If It’s Not Pretense?

First Responder

One of the tools we use at RAVE to help bridge the communication gap between parents and teens/children is #WWWOPK (What We Wish Our Parents Knew). Responses are gotten anonymously from children on anything (good/bad/ugly) they wish they could tell their parents but haven’t been able to and I must say it has proven very effective in hearing the voice of the children. Something that has come out quite clearly though is that there is a huge communication gap as a number of children are skeptical talking to their parents about various issues ranging from requests they get to send nude pictures (sexting); … Continue reading First Responder

#WWWOPK – Who Is A Teenager?

#WWWOPK (What We Wish Our Parents Knew) is a platform for children to express themselves, share some of the things they wish they could tell their parents but for some reason choose not to do so directly or just let us into a glimpse of their world.  Let’s listen, we just might learn a thing or two. Enjoy! According to Wikipedia, a teenager (teen) is a young person whose age falls within the range from 13-19. They are called teenagers because their age number ends with “teen”. So, that’s the official meaning of teenager, but, what’s is “our” definition of a teenager? … Continue reading #WWWOPK – Who Is A Teenager?

#WWWOPK – What Did I Do?!

#WWWOPK (What We Wish Our Parents Knew) is a platform for children to express themselves, share some of the things they wish they could tell their parents but for some reason choose not to do so directly or just let us into a glimpse of their world.  Let’s listen, we just might learn a thing or two. Enjoy! Nowadays, when most kids get to the age of 10 and above, our parents (some, not ALL), seem to think that we have gone on a rebellious streak. For example, I was talking to a friend one day then she told me a … Continue reading #WWWOPK – What Did I Do?!