I am a 13-year-old boy and I am afraid that I am addicted to porn. I want to stop but I don’t know what to do. I wish I could tell my parents but I feel they would use it against me. For a child at this age to identify that he/she has a problem and consider talking to his/her parents about it is very brave and highly commendable. Let’s be honest, the risk of being stigmatized or the thought of being a disappointment to one’s parents can be really scary. It can also be heartbreaking for a parent to discover … Continue reading #WWWOPK E2- 13 & Addicted to Porn
Should an 18-year-old girl be scared to talk to her parents about dating? How can parents encourage more open communication with their children? Enjoy our very first What We Wish Our Parents Knew (#WWWOPK) discussion. WWWOPK is a platform where we discuss responses we have gotten from teenagers on issues they wish they could talk to their parents about but for one reason or the other are unable or unwilling to. We share tips on how to deal with the different issues in the event that a child actually does talk to their mum or dad about it. WWWOPK is … Continue reading #WWWOPK E1 -I Wish I Could Talk To My Parents About Dating
As some of you may already know, RAVE (the organization that powers this blog) has over the past few years been conducting anonymous surveys among teenagers & emerging adults (ages 13 to about 22) on various issues they wish they could discuss with their parents but for one reason or the other, have not been able to do so. While a lot of the responses have been quite eye-opening, about 86% of the respondents said they didn’t bother discussing the issues with their parents because their mum or dad either felt awkward about having certain conversations, was overdramatic, overly spiritual … Continue reading What We Wish Our Parents Knew
A lot of discussions have been going on in recent times over gender-related issues – feminism, sexism, misogyny & misandry. The society and the media are “selling” a lot of narratives to our daughters overtly and subliminally either through TV … Continue reading Mothers Raising Daughters – Balance Is Key
While the girl child empowerment has been going on, not much attention has been paid to the impact this has on the boy child. With the emerging breed of successful hardworking female entrepreneurs and the rising number of women being given seats at the table in the corporate world, it is important that we intentionally help our sons develop the skills and maturity needed to co-exist with the 21stcentury female whether in the business arena or on the homefront. Enjoy watching this episode of “Wake Up Nigeria” where we discuss the role a mother should play in preparing her son … Continue reading How Prepared Is Your Son For The Road Ahead?
The quality of a father-daughter relationship plays a vital role in her journey to adulthood and influences her outlook to life generally. How a father treats his daughter usually has an effect on her relationship with other men throughout her teenage and adult life. A daughter looks to her father for affection, respect, and affirmation. Where she gets this in healthy doses from an early age, she will usually expect the same type of treatment from other males in her life and it highly unlikely that she would tolerate men who treat her disrespectfully or abusively. If, on the other hand, she … Continue reading Fostering The Father-Daughter Relationship
I was on TVC on Tuesday 7th August and I had a great time discussing the father-son relationship on the Wake-Up Nigeria program. T – Talk I – Interests M – Mentor E – Empathize Join me for more parenting discussions on Tuesdays at 7.30 am in the month of August on http://www.tvcontinental.tv. Enjoy and let me know your thoughts. Continue reading Father – Son Relationship
As we get ready to celebrate another Father’s Day, I find myself thinking about conversations we’ve had and particularly about the fact that you think I only see you as an ATM. To be honest dad, I can see why you would think so since most of our conversations revolve around money. It’s either money for school fees, pocket money or to buy this or that. As I tried to think of how I could change this notion, it hit me that you were right after all. I do see you as my ATM. The only problem dad is that … Continue reading My Dad – My ATM
The video clip of the Nigerian Inspector General of Police (IGP) Idris struggling to read a speech in Kano went viral a few weeks ago and caused quite a rumpus. There were allegations that the video was “doctored” to make the IGP look bad but some swear that what went viral was what really happened. In this era of fake news and with technology making it possible to manipulate images it’s getting harder to know what to believe. But my focus today is not on fake news – that is a topic for another day. I was ruminating over the … Continue reading “Difference” – Not Grounds For Disrespect
No matter how technologically advanced the world becomes, there are still some time-tested values that stand true online and offline. Just as we teach young children the importance of knocking on doors and waiting for a response before invading peoples space; the need to understand their body parts and how to protect themselves from predators; the importance of asking for permission before taking what doesn’t belong to them, we must remember to teach children a key ingredient of healthy relationships – RESPECT! Respect for others, respect for boundaries and a healthy dose of self-respect are values our children should imbibe from … Continue reading Respect…Still In Fashion!
Over the past few weeks especially following the BBC News Africa documentary on codeine abuse in Nigeria, a lot of focus (rightly so) has been on the drug and substance abuse. With each passing day the stories of what some youths allegedly sniff, ingest or do to get high, sounds more and more bizarre – from “vodka eyeballing” to “lizard dung”. While some of these stories may sound totally unbelievable, it is important that we continue to pay attention and have conversations with our children about the menace of drug and substance abuse and how they can stay safe. My … Continue reading Another Addiction – Should We Be Worried?
In Nigeria, thousands of young people are addicted to codeine cough syrup – a medicine that’s become a street drug. The Nigerian senate estimates that 3 million bottles of codeine syrup are drunk every day in just two states – Kano and Jigawa. But who makes this syrup? And who sells it to Nigeria’s students? BBC Africa Eye went undercover to investigate. Subscribe to our channel for more investigative journalism. Nothing stays hidden forever. Published by BBC News Africa on May 1, 2018. Continue reading BBC News Africa – Sweet Sweet Codeine