What’s Wrong With Being Shy?

We live in an age where it’s believed that to get noticed one has to be outgoing and that being shy can be a disadvantage. However, that may not necessarily be the case especially when a proper distinction is made between timidity and shyness. As soon as this episode came out on YouTube, an older friend of mine who is a High Court Judge shared some great insights with me and has graciously given me her permission to reshare. “This is a very good topic and well dealt with Charity! I was a very shy child who grew up to … Continue reading What’s Wrong With Being Shy?

New Book Alert!

Can parents really afford not to talk to their children about sex? A couple of days ago, a story broke on social media about 2 young guys (in their 20’s) who allegedly drugged a 23-year-old girl, raped and videoed the act. Word on the street is that these Naija boys are quite popular on the social scene. Not celebrities, just regular young guys who went to decent schools and live in decent neighborhoods. I was becoming really worried by the trend observed not just in Nigeria but globally. News headlines feature various sex-related crimes against children. It’s really sad. It is … Continue reading New Book Alert!

Celebrating Nnonye on World CP Day

Today is World CP Day and it’s a wonderful opportunity for me to celebrate my friend Nnonye Nweke the proud mother of Chizimuzondu (Zimuzo). Nnonye’s story is simply inspirational! Chizimuzondu was adopted as a six-day-old baby. She gave so much joy to her mother (still does) Nonye, who adopted because she did not have a baby of her own but says she had so much love to give. However, she noticed after a couple of months that Zimuzo was not achieving her developmental milestones. Nnonye’s concern was dismissed by a doctor with a wave of the hand; ”Some babies are naturally … Continue reading Celebrating Nnonye on World CP Day

How To Potty Train In Three Days Without Losing​ Your Sanity

I’d like to thank Dhanya who blogs on Parenting Passage for contributing this infographic. As a parent, certain things can tick you off very fast. For example, toilet training. It is definitely not a walk in the park. It can easily dishearten you because it’s a tedious task that lasts a few weeks or a few months. This infographic will definitely make things less complicated for you! Here is how you can potty train your toddler in just 3 days:   For a more detailed post on this infographic and other potty training tips, please visit Parenting Passage. Continue reading How To Potty Train In Three Days Without Losing​ Your Sanity

In Case Of Emergency

About a week ago, there was a story in the media about an 8-year-old boy in Abuja, Nigeria who allegedly committed suicide because he was losing a game he was playing with his siblings. According to one of the versions I read, the boy was said to have been playing a game with his siblings and got angry because he was loosing. He then went into the room, got a skipping rope and hung himself. The story went on to state that his younger siblings watched him hang himself but because they had seen it done on television a number … Continue reading In Case Of Emergency

Did Curiosity Really Kill The Cat?

“Curiosity killed the cat”. I can’t count how many times I heard that proverb as a child. It was either as a reprimand for trying to stick my nose in other peoples business or for asking questions that were considered well beyond my years. I can tell you though, that I heard it sufficiently to conclude that “it does not pay to be curious”. Taunts like “amebo” or “poky poky” further drove home that message. However the “last nail in the coffin” was when in a room full of 10/11-year-old, my science teacher who I guess must have been frustrated with … Continue reading Did Curiosity Really Kill The Cat?

First Responder

One of the tools we use at RAVE to help bridge the communication gap between parents and teens/children is #WWWOPK (What We Wish Our Parents Knew). Responses are gotten anonymously from children on anything (good/bad/ugly) they wish they could tell their parents but haven’t been able to and I must say it has proven very effective in hearing the voice of the children. Something that has come out quite clearly though is that there is a huge communication gap as a number of children are skeptical talking to their parents about various issues ranging from requests they get to send nude pictures (sexting); … Continue reading First Responder

#WWWOPK – What Did I Do?!

#WWWOPK (What We Wish Our Parents Knew) is a platform for children to express themselves, share some of the things they wish they could tell their parents but for some reason choose not to do so directly or just let us into a glimpse of their world.  Let’s listen, we just might learn a thing or two. Enjoy! Nowadays, when most kids get to the age of 10 and above, our parents (some, not ALL), seem to think that we have gone on a rebellious streak. For example, I was talking to a friend one day then she told me a … Continue reading #WWWOPK – What Did I Do?!