As I stood on the stage at the Lagos Business School (LBS) on the 10th of October, talking about how parents can stem the tide of suicide and depression amongst youths, I had an “aha moment”. For those who aren’t familiar with the phrase, Oprah uses it a lot and the dictionary defines it as a moment of sudden insight or discovery. The event was the 2nd “Olashore International School Mental Wellness Initiative”, a great initiative by the school to raise awareness on the issue of mental wellness in youths. I’m not sure if it had to do with the … Continue reading Mental Wellness Matters
America’s Got Talent (AGT) is one of those shows that I find inspiring and heartwarming. The show has a way of getting my wheels churning. AGT 2019 didn’t fail to deliver on learning points for me. There were so many great acts and people with incredible stories, but one person really stood out for me – Kodi Lee who has just been announced the winner of AGT 2019 Yayyyyyyy!!! Kodi! Kodi!! Kodi!!! You know even if Kodi Lee hadn’t been officially announced the winner, the impression he’s made on me is one I’m unlikely to forget in a long time. … Continue reading Nurturing Your Kodi Lee!
In the last couple of weeks, I’ve found myself having different conversations with young boys/men between the ages of 15 and 24. While the conversations have cut across diverse topics, I’ve observed a common thread that is giving me quite a bit of concern. I must say that I was pleasantly surprised by the willingness of these boys to open up and have “deep” conversations. It was almost as though they just needed to exhale, and I allowed them to do just that. I believe what helped was that I offered them a safe space free of judgment and shaming. … Continue reading When Boys Have Daddy Issues
It’s been a while I wrote an article and to be honest my excuses range from outright laziness to writer’s block but I just had to shake the excuses off and do this post in honor of one of the dearest persons to my heart who happens to be the main character in this gist. It’s also her birthday…congratulations my darling, love you plenty❤️ So, this happened about a week ago… I was chatting on WhatsApp with a friend. Let’s call her “Mama Bear” and I noticed from her response that she was distracted so I asked what the issue … Continue reading Don’t Mess With Mama Bear!
Don’t be in too much of a hurry to breathe a sigh of relief because your child doesn’t demand money from you. It would be expedient to know the source of the things they own and how they sustain themselves and their lifestyle. Do you give them pocket money? Do they work or have side hustles? Unfortunately, some people have buckled under economic, financial and peer pressure leading them into different types of questionable money-making ventures – gambling, trading sexual favors, yahoo plus, plugging drugs for cash… To avoid any “shocks” please ask questions. If you ask me, source matters! Continue reading Should The Source Matter?
Helping our children minimize the risks and maximize the benefits of technology is one of the demands of parenting in the digital age. Every once in a while, we come across ‘challenges’ that can be detrimental to our children’s wellbeing. The Momo Challenge is one of such and it’s important we are aware so we can help our children navigate the digital world safely. The article https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/8515907/momo-challenge-fortnite-youtube-instagram-self-harm/ throws light on the Momo challenge. “Momo is a disturbing ‘suicide’ game that has spread through social media platforms such as WhatsApp and Facebook. The sick game Momo begins with an avatar – … Continue reading Digizen Alert – Momo Challenge
My take is that if a child is too scared to verbally express love to a parent, chances are that the parent rarely does too. Parenting by fear to the extent that your child is too scared to say “I love you” is not healthy. Continue reading Too Scared To Say “I Love You”
Can parents really afford not to talk to their children about sex? A couple of days ago, a story broke on social media about 2 young guys (in their 20’s) who allegedly drugged a 23-year-old girl, raped and videoed the act. Word on the street is that these Naija boys are quite popular on the social scene. Not celebrities, just regular young guys who went to decent schools and live in decent neighborhoods. I was becoming really worried by the trend observed not just in Nigeria but globally. News headlines feature various sex-related crimes against children. It’s really sad. It is … Continue reading New Book Alert!
With LGBTQ gaining grounds in several societies and permeating our homes through cartoons, sitcoms, reality shows and various other media, it’s important that parents have conversations with their children about same-sex attractions and relationships. Enjoy our “What We Wish Our Parents Knew” episode for the week. Continue reading #WWWOPK E12 – I Think I’m Bisexual…
When fathers or father-figures are involved in parenting, research has shown that children tend to have fewer issues emotionally, socially and academically. Dads…Men, we need you to please get more involved. Spend quality time and have meaningful conversations with your children. November 19this celebrated as International Men’s Day globally. It is a day set aside to celebrate the positive value men bring to their families, society and the world. I did a short “shout out” to all the male positive role models out there. Keep doing what you do! Men…We need you! Continue reading #WWWOPK E10 – Father’s We Need You
”Why can’t my parents just give me my privacy!🙄 Underneath what comes across to our children as an invasion of privacy are 2 issues – Fear & Trust, both of which are key ingredients for fostering strong and healthy relationships with our children. Please share your thoughts & experiences. What We Wish Our Parents Knew #WWWOPK is powered by RAVE Et Al… Championing The Building Of A Society Where Success Is Driven By Values Continue reading #WWWOPK E9 – I Want My Privacy!
Apple recently announced the new IOS and a new range of iPhones. Although the new iPhones are ridiculously pricey, the new IOS features are pretty interesting and for some reason got me very excited to update my IOS which is very unlike me – I tend to take my time with these apple things before I update my phone and “suddenly” it starts acting up. Just a heads up to “non-apple” users, no pressure here but you have every reason to be envious of us right about now :). The most interesting feature for me is the screen time management … Continue reading Apple Is Helping Users Manage Their Screen Time