These are very interesting times to be a parent! The world is changing so fast!! Access to information is at the click of a button…. the distinction between what is acceptable behavior, what is right or wrong is becoming more blurry…. our children at whatever age are increasingly getting exposed to any and every topic Same sex marriage…premarital sex… alcohol… drugs… faith & religious beliefs… and they have questions. Questions that can be thought provoking and sometimes leave you in shock and speechless.
Our children are smart, studying and discussing issues in primary 1 that I honestly don’t recall coming in contact with until when I was in secondary school! They are also generally very confident and not easily cowered into accepting pat answers. Their inquisitive and lightning fast minds are searching for answers that are logical and “make sense”. It’s obvious that “because I said so”; “because I am your parent”; “God forbid” or “I reject it” are no longer acceptable and satisfactory answers for their curious minds. Now more than ever, leaving them unsatisfied can prove very costly. If we do not answer them satisfactorily they will keep searching for answers from the various sources available to them – friends, social media etc. and with all the dogma being peddled your guess is as good as mine.
Seriously dads & mums with the internet we really have no excuse not to have at least a basic knowledge about issues that are trending and the impact they have on our children.
Let’s not get so bogged down with the hustle and bustle of earning a living or be so detached from reality that we fail see what’s happening right under our noses. Let’s begin to make those small information upgrades because when it comes to parenting, Ignorance is definitely not bliss!
2 thoughts on “Information Upgrade Required”
Great story n valuable moral learnt. Its high time parents set d right priorities and face up to the responsibility of instilling discipline in our children. May God help us not to fail in d parenting department.
Do Read… its beautiful !🐛🐝
The best message I have read in a while
A man an avid Gardener saw a small Butterfly laying few eggs in one of the pots in his garden. Since that day he looked at the egg with ever growing curiosity and eagerness. The egg started to move and shake a little. He was exited to see a new life coming up right in front of his eyes. He spent hours watching the egg now. The egg started to expand and develop cracks.. A tiny head and antennae started to come out ever so slowly. The man’s excitement knew no bounds. He got his magnifying glasses and sat to watch the life and body of a pupa coming out. He saw the struggle of the tender pupa and couldn’t resist his urge to “HELP”.
He went and got a tender forceps to help the egg break, a nip here a nip there to help the struggling life and the pupa was out. The man was ecstatic! He waited now each day for the pupa to grow and fly like a beautiful butterfly, but alas that never happened. The larvae pupa had a oversized head and kept crawling along in the pot for the full 4 weeks and died!
Depressed the man went to his botanist friend and asked the reason. His friend told him the struggle to break out of the egg helps the larvae to send blood to its wings and the head push helps the head to remain small so that the tender wings can support it thru its 4 week life cycle. In his eagerness to help, the man destroyed a beautiful life!
Struggles help all of us, that’s why a wee bit of effort goes a long way to develop our strength to face life’s difficulties! As parents, we sometimes go too far trying to help and protect our kids from life’s harsh realities and disappointments. We don’t want our kids to struggle like we did.
Harvard psychiatrist Dr. Dan Kindlon says that over-protected children are more likely to struggle in relationships and with challenges.
We’re sending our kids the message that they’re not capable of helping themselves.
To quote clinical psychologist, Dr. Great Investment……..Wendy ‘s Moral: “It is Our Job to prepare Our Children for the Road & Not prepare the Road for Our Children”
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