What If It’s Not Pretense?

I read teary-eyed with an ache in my heart the unfortunate account of the death of 9-year-old Kamzie a JSS1 boarding student in a secondary school in Abuja, Nigeria, who allegedly died as a result of “neglect” by the school authorities. It must be heart-wrenching for her family and I pray that God will comfort them the way only He can. There’s a statement in Kamzie’s mother’s account of what happened that for some reason just keeps playing in my head “even the nurse that was on duty once chased her away that she wasn’t sick but was pretending”. As I read … Continue reading What If It’s Not Pretense?

First Responder

One of the tools we use at RAVE to help bridge the communication gap between parents and teens/children is #WWWOPK (What We Wish Our Parents Knew). Responses are gotten anonymously from children on anything (good/bad/ugly) they wish they could tell their parents but haven’t been able to and I must say it has proven very effective in hearing the voice of the children. Something that has come out quite clearly though is that there is a huge communication gap as a number of children are skeptical talking to their parents about various issues ranging from requests they get to send nude pictures (sexting); … Continue reading First Responder

Addicted?

I’ve been “writing” snippets of this article in my head for a while and saying to myself “today is the day I come clean” but then, panic takes over! The reason is not far-fetched. How could I possibly admit… that I… think that I… might be slightly addicted to technology!!!! In fairness to me though, addiction in a digital age isn’t easy to recognize. Perhaps because we have cause to be “plugged in” for various legitimate reasons…work, school, maintaining family ties & friendships especially with those that live in different locations. In case you’re still wondering wether you or your loved one might … Continue reading Addicted?

Relationships Matter

  If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably experienced “the good, the bad and the ugly” of relationships. Relationships are inevitable…some are thrust on us like the families we are born into and some develop based on our interactions and the choices we make. Relationships are a vital part of a child’s social and emotional development. In the course of interacting with family, friends (offline & online), teachers, domestic they too would most definitely encounter various kinds of people with whom they could build either healthy of unhealthy relationships. As tempting as it is for parents to want to shield … Continue reading Relationships Matter

Reading In A Screen Dominated World

Living in a screen dominated world, it can sometimes be a bit of a challenge to get children to read for pleasure or even do their school work. “Children who read for pleasure have increased concentration, memory, confidence, greater self-esteem and general knowledge. Reading builds empathy, improves imagination and language development. These are important and relevant benefits, whether we live in a digital or analogue world.” http://www.theguardian.com To be honest, even for us as adults, if we are not intentional about reading, it can be a struggle getting unplugged from screens whether it’s our phones, laptops or television. Yeah! yeah!! … Continue reading Reading In A Screen Dominated World

#WWWOPK – Who Is A Teenager?

#WWWOPK (What We Wish Our Parents Knew) is a platform for children to express themselves, share some of the things they wish they could tell their parents but for some reason choose not to do so directly or just let us into a glimpse of their world.  Let’s listen, we just might learn a thing or two. Enjoy! According to Wikipedia, a teenager (teen) is a young person whose age falls within the range from 13-19. They are called teenagers because their age number ends with “teen”. So, that’s the official meaning of teenager, but, what’s is “our” definition of a teenager? … Continue reading #WWWOPK – Who Is A Teenager?