My take is that if a child is too scared to verbally express love to a parent, chances are that the parent rarely does too. Parenting by fear to the extent that your child is too scared to say “I love you” is not healthy. Continue reading Too Scared To Say “I Love You”
Can parents really afford not to talk to their children about sex? A couple of days ago, a story broke on social media about 2 young guys (in their 20’s) who allegedly drugged a 23-year-old girl, raped and videoed the act. Word on the street is that these Naija boys are quite popular on the social scene. Not celebrities, just regular young guys who went to decent schools and live in decent neighborhoods. I was becoming really worried by the trend observed not just in Nigeria but globally. News headlines feature various sex-related crimes against children. It’s really sad. It is … Continue reading New Book Alert!
December in Nigeria can be a lot of fun – concerts, events, and weddings. Ahh! Naija weddings are truly something to behold. From the decor to the food, dance steps, and the dressing. Kai! Nigerians truly know how to “slay”. We turn up looking very regal and gorgeous. Ladies are flawlessly made up (at least most of the time) stunning attire and headgear. Even the men aren’t left behind. Totally on fleek with their well-tailored traditional attire, the groomsmen all looking like “Yoruba demons” wearing well crafted bespoke shoes. One can’t help but notice though, the stunningly beautiful ladies – … Continue reading Dress Code: Slay with Decency
With LGBTQ gaining grounds in several societies and permeating our homes through cartoons, sitcoms, reality shows and various other media, it’s important that parents have conversations with their children about same-sex attractions and relationships. Enjoy our “What We Wish Our Parents Knew” episode for the week. Continue reading #WWWOPK E12 – I Think I’m Bisexual…
The good, the bad and the ugly of sex is everywhere! It’s talked about by almost everyone, everywhere except the most important place where the conversation should be had – the home between parents and their children. Children are becoming sexually aware and active from an increasingly young age. Being a curious generation, they are asking sex-related questions – what is pornography? When can I start dating? Do you and daddy or mummy have sex? What is sex? When can I start having sex? Having these conversations can be awkward but the earlier we start talking to our children so … Continue reading #WWWOPK E11 – I wish I could Talk To My Parents About Sex🙈
When fathers or father-figures are involved in parenting, research has shown that children tend to have fewer issues emotionally, socially and academically. Dads…Men, we need you to please get more involved. Spend quality time and have meaningful conversations with your children. November 19this celebrated as International Men’s Day globally. It is a day set aside to celebrate the positive value men bring to their families, society and the world. I did a short “shout out” to all the male positive role models out there. Keep doing what you do! Men…We need you! Continue reading #WWWOPK E10 – Father’s We Need You
”Why can’t my parents just give me my privacy!🙄 Underneath what comes across to our children as an invasion of privacy are 2 issues – Fear & Trust, both of which are key ingredients for fostering strong and healthy relationships with our children. Please share your thoughts & experiences. What We Wish Our Parents Knew #WWWOPK is powered by RAVE Et Al… Championing The Building Of A Society Where Success Is Driven By Values Continue reading #WWWOPK E9 – I Want My Privacy!
Sometimes we get so upset with our spouse or ex that all we want to do is vent…which is okay as long as we are not venting to the wrong person or people. In this episode of What We Wish Our Parents Knew (WWWOPK) we discuss this response to our survey that we got from a 16-year-old boy. ‘’I would want my mother to know I don’t care about her relationship with my dad…STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT YOUR MISTAKE MOM!” I remember thinking to myself when I first read this, “rather insensitive & harsh” but as I pondered on the comment I … Continue reading #WWWOPK E8 – Stop Complaining Mom!
“I feel extremely insecure and do not like it when people make some inappropriate comments about being fat or overweight.” Children with insecurity issues are more vulnerable to forming unhealthy relationships, being bullied, negative peer pressure and generally making poor choices. A healthy self-esteem is essential in this day and age. #WWWOPK is powered by RAVE Et Al… Championing The Building Of A Society Where Success Is Driven By Values Continue reading #WWWOPK E7 – Insecurity & Body Shaming
Help! I’m 15 and I’m being blackmailed by my friend who has my nude pictures. Continue reading #WWWOPK E6 – Sexting & Sextortion
October 10th is World Mental Health Day, a day dedicated to mental health education, awareness and advocacy and the theme for 2018 was “Young people and mental health in a changing world” For the focus to be on Young people and their mental health, it means this must really be an issue in this age. We also get a couple of “I am depressed”; “I am sad always”; “I feel dejected” responses when we conduct our anonymous #WWWOPK survey. What can parents do to help their children appropriately manage their mental health? This program is powered by RAVE Et Al … Continue reading #WWWOPK E5 – Am I Too Young To Be Depressed?
It would appear that parents are getting more liberal about allowing their children follow their passion and choose careers that make them happy as against more traditional career paths. However, judging by the number of times the issue of children being scared to broach the issue of the career they’d really like to pursue comes up, it’s clear that this is still a sore point. We get so many variations of this issue when we conduct our anonymous WWWOPK (What We Wish Our Parents Knew) survey – I want to be a model – not a lawyer; I want to … Continue reading #WWWOPK E4 – Parents…Children…Career Choices