We live in an age where it’s believed that to get noticed one has to be outgoing and that being shy can be a disadvantage. However, that may not necessarily be the case especially when a proper distinction is made between timidity and shyness. As soon as this episode came out on YouTube, an older friend of mine who is a High Court Judge shared some great insights with me and has graciously given me her permission to reshare. “This is a very good topic and well dealt with Charity! I was a very shy child who grew up to … Continue reading What’s Wrong With Being Shy?
The 2019 presidential elections in Nigeria have just been concluded and for me, there are many lessons to be learned. I do not speak from the standpoint of a person affiliated to any particular political party but as a concerned parent and citizen. I also do not stand as ‘judge’ because I consider myself to be on trial too. I just think that we need to ask ourselves pertinent questions. All kinds of drama have played out throughout this election period but the one I have not been able to wrap my head around is the dismal number of people … Continue reading What Is Really Important To Us?
Don’t be in too much of a hurry to breathe a sigh of relief because your child doesn’t demand money from you. It would be expedient to know the source of the things they own and how they sustain themselves and their lifestyle. Do you give them pocket money? Do they work or have side hustles? Unfortunately, some people have buckled under economic, financial and peer pressure leading them into different types of questionable money-making ventures – gambling, trading sexual favors, yahoo plus, plugging drugs for cash… To avoid any “shocks” please ask questions. If you ask me, source matters! Continue reading Should The Source Matter?
Helping our children minimize the risks and maximize the benefits of technology is one of the demands of parenting in the digital age. Every once in a while, we come across ‘challenges’ that can be detrimental to our children’s wellbeing. The Momo Challenge is one of such and it’s important we are aware so we can help our children navigate the digital world safely. The article https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/8515907/momo-challenge-fortnite-youtube-instagram-self-harm/ throws light on the Momo challenge. “Momo is a disturbing ‘suicide’ game that has spread through social media platforms such as WhatsApp and Facebook. The sick game Momo begins with an avatar – … Continue reading Digizen Alert – Momo Challenge
My take is that if a child is too scared to verbally express love to a parent, chances are that the parent rarely does too. Parenting by fear to the extent that your child is too scared to say “I love you” is not healthy. Continue reading Too Scared To Say “I Love You”
Can parents really afford not to talk to their children about sex? A couple of days ago, a story broke on social media about 2 young guys (in their 20’s) who allegedly drugged a 23-year-old girl, raped and videoed the act. Word on the street is that these Naija boys are quite popular on the social scene. Not celebrities, just regular young guys who went to decent schools and live in decent neighborhoods. I was becoming really worried by the trend observed not just in Nigeria but globally. News headlines feature various sex-related crimes against children. It’s really sad. It is … Continue reading New Book Alert!
December in Nigeria can be a lot of fun – concerts, events, and weddings. Ahh! Naija weddings are truly something to behold. From the decor to the food, dance steps, and the dressing. Kai! Nigerians truly know how to “slay”. We turn up looking very regal and gorgeous. Ladies are flawlessly made up (at least most of the time) stunning attire and headgear. Even the men aren’t left behind. Totally on fleek with their well-tailored traditional attire, the groomsmen all looking like “Yoruba demons” wearing well crafted bespoke shoes. One can’t help but notice though, the stunningly beautiful ladies – … Continue reading Dress Code: Slay with Decency
With LGBTQ gaining grounds in several societies and permeating our homes through cartoons, sitcoms, reality shows and various other media, it’s important that parents have conversations with their children about same-sex attractions and relationships. Enjoy our “What We Wish Our Parents Knew” episode for the week. Continue reading #WWWOPK E12 – I Think I’m Bisexual…
The good, the bad and the ugly of sex is everywhere! It’s talked about by almost everyone, everywhere except the most important place where the conversation should be had – the home between parents and their children. Children are becoming sexually aware and active from an increasingly young age. Being a curious generation, they are asking sex-related questions – what is pornography? When can I start dating? Do you and daddy or mummy have sex? What is sex? When can I start having sex? Having these conversations can be awkward but the earlier we start talking to our children so … Continue reading #WWWOPK E11 – I wish I could Talk To My Parents About Sex🙈
When fathers or father-figures are involved in parenting, research has shown that children tend to have fewer issues emotionally, socially and academically. Dads…Men, we need you to please get more involved. Spend quality time and have meaningful conversations with your children. November 19this celebrated as International Men’s Day globally. It is a day set aside to celebrate the positive value men bring to their families, society and the world. I did a short “shout out” to all the male positive role models out there. Keep doing what you do! Men…We need you! Continue reading #WWWOPK E10 – Father’s We Need You
”Why can’t my parents just give me my privacy!🙄 Underneath what comes across to our children as an invasion of privacy are 2 issues – Fear & Trust, both of which are key ingredients for fostering strong and healthy relationships with our children. Please share your thoughts & experiences. What We Wish Our Parents Knew #WWWOPK is powered by RAVE Et Al… Championing The Building Of A Society Where Success Is Driven By Values Continue reading #WWWOPK E9 – I Want My Privacy!
Sometimes we get so upset with our spouse or ex that all we want to do is vent…which is okay as long as we are not venting to the wrong person or people. In this episode of What We Wish Our Parents Knew (WWWOPK) we discuss this response to our survey that we got from a 16-year-old boy. ‘’I would want my mother to know I don’t care about her relationship with my dad…STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT YOUR MISTAKE MOM!” I remember thinking to myself when I first read this, “rather insensitive & harsh” but as I pondered on the comment I … Continue reading #WWWOPK E8 – Stop Complaining Mom!